Become an Expert Asker

Ask For What You Want:
Personally, Professionally and Romantically

Have you ever felt resistance come up when you ask for something important to you?

 

Or, maybe you put off asking for what you want for days or weeks (or never?) worrying about what might happen.

Or, always difficult, maybe you made the ask but it was received horribly.

Or, maybe there are people in your life that you dread asking things from.

Asking for what we want, in any relationship or circumstance, often feels vulnerable, scary, and risky.

We totally get it! In fact, we’ve been there, too many times - which is why we created this workshop.

We all get charge and attachment around things that we want, which makes asking for what we want even more difficult. As the stakes get higher, the charge we carry can get higher as well. We’ve all noticed how we get in our head creating stories about the outcome of our asking, which can make the ask more difficult or even impossible.  

In this 1-day workshop, you will learn to ask for what you want in all areas of your life from a completely NEW place — one that is mindful, grounded, confident, and clear. You’ll feel the change in your body by the end of the day after going through real practices to help you break old patterns and create new ones that will serve you better. 

Become an Expert Asker

 

“This workshop allowed me to move through the fear of the ask, better understand my own worst fears of what would occur if I ask and opened up a larger possibility of actually getting what I want. It also highlighted underlying conditions, beliefs and wounds that need more attention. I highly recommend it!”

— Petra

“I had been putting off a difficult conversation with my sister in law for years. The Ask Workshop helped me see how to address the issue and feel empowered while doing it. I called her later that week, it went better than I could have ever expected.”

— Max

“I really appreciate you putting together that workshop, it has helped me immensely! What I learned in that workshop helped me survive a weekend with my ex, express my interest in dating someone, and also inspired me to take steps towards finding a job I would love! I’m finally working on figuring out what I want now that I know how to ask for it!”

— Teresa

Facilitators

This course was created by Steve Mock based on 10 years of personal growth work mixed with 25 years of professional experiences. The approach is based on the principals learned at COR Leadership Development Training (LDT), a year-long program that combines somatic healing work with teachings of facilitation skills, leadership principles, and mindfulness work.

Jennifer Underwood is also a graduate of COR Leadership Development Training (LDT) and is a co-host of the Workshop. Jennifer is a communications and career coach who uses a mix of strategy and emotional intelligence tools to help people see their unique gifts and send them out into the world in big ways.

Examples of Asks

  • Professional

    Asking a boss for a raise or promotion

    Asking a prospect for their time and attention when they are busy

    Asking a colleague to cover for you while you are out

  • Romantic

    Asking a new person you're dating how things are going, or to spend more time together

    Asking your life partner to make more effort in the relationship

    Asking your life partner to stop smoking

  • Personal

    Asking a friend to help move your couch

    Asking a family member to spend holidays together (or apart…)

    Asking a friend to keep their commitments with you

  • These examples may resonate with you or they may bring up examples of other vulnerable requests you might want to make in your own life now or in the future. It’s all welcome at this event. The skills you learn in this day will not just help you identify and work through specific asks but will help you learn a new way of approaching others with vulnerable asks that will serve you in all areas of your life going forward.

Workshop Flow

 

  • This part of the course we all reflect back on times in our lives when we’ve made asks that have gone well and not gone well. Further, we will dive into the feelings that come up around this. This course is based on somatic healing and you will learn to access and be with these feelings as they occur. You want to achieve mastery in this.

  • We will go over best practices on how to ask for what you want. There are two parts. First, simple tools around creating asks in language that will be well received. Second, learning to be mindful of the feelings and sensations that you identified that keep you from getting what you want. Mastering the combination of these two principles is the goal of the course.

  • We will practice asking for what you want. It turns out that, just like anything else, practice makes perfect. If something is important in your life, why not practice it in a safe environment before you do it in the real world?